Best wishes for 2016

Happy New Year! – It’s New Year!

Often our resolutions and renewal are founded on leaving the past behind and making a completely fresh start.

Sometimes that really is the best way forward but more often we need to accept that our past will always be a part of our future and each new journey begins where we already are.

The New Year may offer a blank canvass but you will paint on it with the skills and materials you have already as well as new ones you can acquire.

A realistic approach to your New Years Resolutions may be to consider not just what you need to leave behind you what you can carry with you, renewed, refreshed, reapplied.

Happy New Year!

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May you find Joy and Peace

It’s Christmas.

You may believe in God and that he entered this world at Bethlehem to experience humanity and redeem it.

Even those who don’t can usually embrace the messages of peace and hope that surround this season.

Those addicted to alcohol or drugs or anything else long for peace in their lives. And it is possible to find it through making a new start on the path to recovery.

Those on that road already can affirm that there is hope. It may be fragile at times, it can sometimes become hidden, but we soon realise it is never lost and things can be good again.

Christmas is the “Season of Goodwill”. Through hope and your efforts, good will come to you.

For you and your family and friends may this be a Happy Christmas.
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Sometimes turning away from the past altogether is the only path to the future

There is a common teaching in religious traditions that advocates renouncing everything into order to focus on spiritual progress.

The thinking is that everything worldly is a distraction and self denial and abstinence removes everything between us and the real truth, the ultimate reality (whether that is seen as God or something more abstract and less personal).

All this parallels what every recovering addict knows: that alcohol, drugs or the process that obsessed us and dominated our life has to be set aside so that we have room to grow.

The abandoning of worldly distraction seems an impossible burden to accept but often those who have embraced that sort of asceticism claim it is liberating, and that it is possessions and ambition that stifle growth, not simple living.

Now extreme self-denial is probably not the right path for the majority of us. But when the Twelve Steps and other methods ask us to make careful inventories of our character and lifestyle, we are being invited to weed out the overgrowth and surplus and “get back to basics” in our lives. Even a little pruning lets in the light and makes room for growth.

Most of us would probably say that we know that a giving up everything and making a fresh start is an appealing ideal but something way beyond practicality. The fact remains that, even in more modest ways, the more we can give up, the more we will gain.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

We always assume too much when we judge other people

illustrationIt is the job of a court of law to understand fully the circumstances of an event and the actions people took. For all the care that is usually taken, the appeals procedure demonstrates just how often even they still get it wrong.

By contrast, all of us frequently rush into judgement on people with little or no knowledge of their character or circumstances. We rarely have any evidence for what is really going on beyond hearsay or what we quickly glimpsed.

The sad legend of Beth Gelert teaches a good lesson:

Prince Llewelyn returns from hunting to find his baby son missing, the contents of the cot scattered and his dog covered in blood. In anguished fury he slays the pet. Only then does he hear the whimpering of the child and discovers him under his blankets, safe and well beside the body of the wolf from which which the dog had saved him.

We should all be less hasty to judge others, remembering how hard it is to find the facts and understand them fully.

Those who face the challenges of addiction to alcohol or drugs or anything else are all too familiar with, and sensitive to the opinions others form. But we should be less bothered when we are judged by people who neither know nor understand and who, in any case, are never in a position to throw the first stone.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

Escape the skeletons in the closet

illustrationIs there anyone whose closet is free of skeletons?

We’ve all done things we regret. Sometimes we hope our mistakes have been forgotten but too often their effects linger and are inescapable.

The past is established and immutable. There’s nothing we can do about it … well, except to keep it behind us and move on.

This is not to belittle consequence. We and, maybe more importantly, others have to live with what we have done. But the future is all about possibility and potential and need not be crippled by the past.

Who you were need not define who you are, still less who you can be.

We all know how important it is that someone who has been addicted to drugs or alcohol or anything else is ever alert to the danger of relapse. Addiction is an incurable disease. But here’s a controversial Thought: maybe calling ourselves “recovering addicts” can sometimes focus too much on where we were, not where we are or where we are going.

We should not deny the past but neither should we be enslaved by it.

Move on. Look to the future. Strive to become. Let the daemons gnaw on their own memories, not on your potential.

Those who are blind to the past are doomed to repeat it but those whose eyes are fixed on it are doomed to stumble and never move forward.

You messed up. Move on.