You don’t always need to see your goal in order to get closer to it.

To anyone who has done any hillwalking, it is a familiar story.

You park the car at a well-known beauty spot from where you have a magnificent view of the distant peak.

To begin with, the going is easy. You’re on a gentle path across the fields and the mountain top remains in view and is very slowly getting closer.

After a while, though, you find yourself under a sleep slope. The going has got much tougher. Instead of striding you are scrambling, sometimes slipping, sometimes sliding, always sweating. All you can see is the rock and the rough grass a few feet above your head. You begin to wonder if it’s worth it.

Then you break out onto the ridge above and you realise that all that struggle and all that effort has suddenly brought you so much closer to the hilltop and, apart from preparing yourself for a final hard scramble to the top, for most of the rest of the journey all you need to do is to keep going forward.

The journey through recovery from alcohol addiction, drug addiction or any other addicition can be very similar. Sometimes we lose sight of our destination; we begin to wonder if it’s still really there and if we can ever reach it. But it’s just when the struggle seems hardest that we are actually making the best progress. So long as the way is leading upwards (or even if by a careful step down we can begin a better route) all we need is to keep going.

The view of the mountain top brings hope and encouragement but it’s often when you can no longer see it that you are making the best progress towards it.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

Worthwhile achievement does not depend on being the best

We are bombarded with claims that only the best is any good. You’ve heard them all … “Coming second is first of the losers” … “Either you are first or you are nowhere” … and so on.

It’s all vanity and arrogance.

If a junior doctor saves my life, I don’t care if he was top of his class.

If you make a real improvement in your life or a real contribution to the good of others, then it is those who cannot value it that deserve scorn, not you.

It is especially important for those who are in recovery to gain strength and satisfaction from what they achieve. Your life may not move forward as fast as you would like. You may have setbacks. But anyone who makes any progress at anything should feel good about it.

It’s really important to have goals and to aim for the best all the time. But it’s equally important that those goals are realistic and that we value every successful step toward them, even when the steps are small or others leap further.

Many of the world’s famous leaders have paid too high a price for their success and often what they spent was the lives and happiness of others. Often it brought them little contentment, only the desperation to find “new worlds to conquer”.

Humanity survives not because a few are best but because the many do some good.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

The time to mend the roof is when the sun is shining
Life does not run smoothly, as most people reading this Addictions UKBlog will be all too aware, especially those who have faced the challenges of alcohol addiction, drug addiction or anything similar.

We make plans and they don’t work out. We set out with the best of intentions but fail to achieve our goals.

The proverb tells us that “the time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining”. When disaster overtakes us we need to have resources and rescue plans already in place.

For anyone in any sort of recovery, the value of family, friends and mentors is beyond telling. Not only will they be there for us when things go wrong, helping us to get back on our feet, but often they can save us when we’re on the brink. Picking up the phone and talking over our worries or temptations is a lot easier to do than facing the consequences of mistakes and failures.

Building strong and supportive relationships  is essential to survival.

In so many other ways too, preparing for the possibilities of a crisis can lessen its effects when something goes wrong … and sooner or later it will.

Only a fool drives a car that has no spare tyre.

A tin of soup in the cupboard, a torch by the armchair and a spare battery for a radio, these are all basic and obvious preparations to deal with problems. And we should be looking at every aspect of our lives to see where a little preparation for the unexpected could make all the difference.

The last thing anyone in recovery needs is additional stress and so even the tiniest, every-day contingencies matter.

Take a moment now and opportunities later to think about what you can do weather the storms, large and small.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seekinghome-based treatment.

When we look back on our troubles they are rarely so bad as we thoguht.
Time, they say, is a great healer and we know that to be true. Without belittling the difficulty and reality of the problems people suffer, it remains true that we can usually look back on most problems with a new perspective. Sadly, there are exceptions of course.

If only we could travel through time and look at today’s adversities from tomorrow’s perspective.

Maybe we can. Maybe we can pause and ask ourselves, “How does today’s problem compare with what went before? Is it any worse than other challenges which I survived?”

Addiction to drugs or alcohol or anything else can present us with seemingly overwhelming difficulties but, with the help of our friends and mentors, it is possible to take a fresh look at them and realise that we are able to deal with them.

It might be asking too much to expect us us to laugh away the problems we confront right now, but we might be able to stop them reducing us to tears.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seekinghome-based treatment.

Reach but be Realistic

It’s a bad thing to have no ambition, no sense of the possible.

It’s just a bad to believe that you have no limits and can achieve anything. That way starts with arrogance but soon leads to disappointment and despair.

The trick to making progress in anything is to keep on setting yourself goals that are a little beyond your current reach. They must always stretch you but must always be possible, at least after a reasonable number of attempts.

Those in recovery from addiction should always have the benefit of a mentor’s objective and detached advice about what is a fair and reasonable target. A wise guide will prevent you either being too soft on yourself or kidding yourself about the realities of what you can achieve in the short term. It’s vital that you make as much progress as you can while not risking too much disappointment and discouragement.

The team at Addictions UK have all been there and know and understand all sorts of challenges that addicts face, whether the challenge is alcohol addiciton, drug addiction or addiction to anything else. One of them will be very happy to help you map out your goals, will encourage you to achieve them and will help you through disappointments and set-backs.