If at first you don’t succeed, you may be a late developer
There has been a debate in education (and not just recently) about whether it’s right, even necessary that children should be challenged by targets and face the stark realities of falling short in a competitive world. Both sides of the argument would agree (mostly) that today’s result matters less than tomorrow’s potential. It may or may not be fine to tell children that what they have done isn’t good enough but hardly anyone thinks children should be told they have no hope of doing better in the future.
Each of us needs to give our own inner child hope and encouragement.
History is full of stories of those who were late developers or who, having made little progress at first, eventually succeeded and became respected and admired.
For many of us, especially those facing crises, “success” and “achievement” are irrelevant dreams. The potential for “recovery” and “normality” is sufficient goal.
And that possibility is always there; it;s never an unrealistic hope.
Your life and achievements may not be remembered and celebrated for ages to come (though that’s not impossible) but what is certain is that your life can be better than it is.
Never give up hope. However hard it has been, the future can be better and believing that is the first step to achieving that.
Sometimes the causes of anxiety are obvious. Perhaps there is some test we must face at work or at school. Maybe it’s because someone else’s behaviour is putting us or themselves at risk.
Our anxieties may arise from our own actions. We may fear some skeleton tumbling out of our cupboard or we may be having to face the consequences of a past mistake already discovered.
Anxiety can sometimes have no obvious cause. Everyday medications and herbal remedies can have strange side effects and so can some foods. Everyone knows that anxiety can lead to raised blood pressure but some people believe raised blood pressure can trigger anxiety.
For those facing alcohol addiction, drug addiction or addiction to some other substance or process, the sources of anxiety are many though not always easily identified.
Whatever the cause, being anxious is unpleasant and presents special dangers for any addicts who is desperate to escape from the pressures. But the symptoms can be relieved in other ways.
Accepting the support of family and friends and mentors will usually help lessen your worries. So will becoming absorbed in any good distraction, be it your hobby or a good book or film or even some mentally demanding chores.
It’s helpful too if you can recover a sense of proportion.
You have been in trouble before. This isn’t the first time you have faced a challenge or been fearful of an outcome. Looking back, sometimes you wonder why you were so concerned. And even when things didn’t turn out so well, you now see yourself as a survivor.
“Yesterday has come and gone. So will tomorrow.” It’s quite logical to base a more positive view of your future on the fact that you have coped in the past. You have found a way through your troubles before and you can do so again. The important thing is not to do anything that makes the situation worse or makes recovery harder.
Drug Poisoning Deaths at an all-time high in the North East
The North East of England has topped the table for deaths related to drug poisoning for the second year in succession. The Office of National Statistics reveals there were 3,346 drug poisoning deaths registered in England and Wales in 2014 the highest since records began in 1993.
Overall there was a sharp jump in fatalities involving cocaine and anti-depressants. Deaths involving heroin or morphine increased from 579 to 952. For the second year running the North East Region has the highest rate of drug misuse deaths at 69.3 per one million of the population.
Addictions UK provides a home-based drug and alcohol treatment service and is based in the North East of England. The service is a Social Enterprise and works with other third sector agencies in the North East of England in particular. Treatment and medical Detox Services are available to clients throughout the United Kingdom and Republic of Ireland.
For further information please telephone 0300 330 3040 or Freephone 0800 1 40 40 44 or discuss your questions with us or contact us on lineif you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.
The first of the Twelve Steps requires the “We admitted we were powerless over addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable.“
The difficult truth is that we cannot just give up and give in and let someone else take over.
If I am trying to write an article and I get writer’s block, I can ask a friend to take over and complete the work. I need take no more part in it.
But addiction is something within, not something “out there” from which we can detach ourselves. We cannot hand over our life to someone else and have them manage every detail for us. Not, at least, unless we have been persuaded to join some abusive cult.
It may be true that life has become unmanageable but just facing that fact does not of itself solve the problem. The way forward is not to hand over to another human to tell us what to do but to seek help and strength from our friends and families and from any Higher Power we acknowledge to support us as we face and take decisions and, litle by little, one at a time, pick up the pieces.
When I say, “My life has become unmanageable”, I need to add “So, with help and support and encouragement I must start to get it back under control”.
Studying boosts self-confidence and well-being, and expands social networks.
Non-vocational adult education drawing on a person’s own motivation comes with a variety of benefits that are also reflected on the person’s close friends, family and work. Studying boosts self-confidence and well-being, and expands social networks. Furthermore, motivation to pursue other studies also increases. Thanks to participation in adult education, tolerance towards and confidence in other people grows, and adult learners pay increasing attention to their health.
This is the main summary of work being carried out in Finland and it is gratifying that these conclusions support the view that people seeking recovery can gain additional benefits from education and training courses. The experience of Addictions UK and its sister project Addictions North East also shows that highly motivated clients – either in a one-to-one setting or group work environment can get great benefit through participating in education and training courses. Participation in adult education, tolerance towards and confidence in other people grows, and adult learners pay increasing attention to their health.
All of the above are findings from the Benefits of Lifelong Learning Project carried out in ten European countries. The study focused on liberal adult education, i.e. non-vocational courses, which are characterised by willingness to volunteer, self-motivation, and goals related to hobbies. The study investigated the changes experienced by adult learners participating in liberal adult education courses during a course of one year.
Simon Stephens, Director of Case Work of Addictions UK has been engaged in education and training for several years as a mature student. He has been studying Psychology and Counselling at Higher Education levels and he relates to these benefits.
He said “As a person in recovery, I am aware that my life studying and pursuing advanced professional qualifications assists me in a variety of ways” The quality of my life certainly boosts my well-being and levels of confidence.” Simon added “The courses that Addictions UK promotes for people in recovery have much the same results as this major European Academic Study.”
Addictions UK organises Recovery Training and Education both on a one-to-one basis and in Group work settings alongside the North East Charity Addictions North East, based in County Durham.