If at first you don’t succeed, you may be a late developer
There has been a debate in education (and not just recently) about whether it’s right, even necessary that children should be challenged by targets and face the stark realities of falling short in a competitive world. Both sides of the argument would agree (mostly) that today’s result matters less than tomorrow’s potential. It may or may not be fine to tell children that what they have done isn’t good enough but hardly anyone thinks children should be told they have no hope of doing better in the future.
Each of us needs to give our own inner child hope and encouragement.
History is full of stories of those who were late developers or who, having made little progress at first, eventually succeeded and became respected and admired.
For many of us, especially those facing crises, “success” and “achievement” are irrelevant dreams. The potential for “recovery” and “normality” is sufficient goal.
And that possibility is always there; it;s never an unrealistic hope.
Your life and achievements may not be remembered and celebrated for ages to come (though that’s not impossible) but what is certain is that your life can be better than it is.
Never give up hope. However hard it has been, the future can be better and believing that is the first step to achieving that.
Sometimes the causes of anxiety are obvious. Perhaps there is some test we must face at work or at school. Maybe it’s because someone else’s behaviour is putting us or themselves at risk.
Our anxieties may arise from our own actions. We may fear some skeleton tumbling out of our cupboard or we may be having to face the consequences of a past mistake already discovered.
Anxiety can sometimes have no obvious cause. Everyday medications and herbal remedies can have strange side effects and so can some foods. Everyone knows that anxiety can lead to raised blood pressure but some people believe raised blood pressure can trigger anxiety.
For those facing alcohol addiction, drug addiction or addiction to some other substance or process, the sources of anxiety are many though not always easily identified.
Whatever the cause, being anxious is unpleasant and presents special dangers for any addicts who is desperate to escape from the pressures. But the symptoms can be relieved in other ways.
Accepting the support of family and friends and mentors will usually help lessen your worries. So will becoming absorbed in any good distraction, be it your hobby or a good book or film or even some mentally demanding chores.
It’s helpful too if you can recover a sense of proportion.
You have been in trouble before. This isn’t the first time you have faced a challenge or been fearful of an outcome. Looking back, sometimes you wonder why you were so concerned. And even when things didn’t turn out so well, you now see yourself as a survivor.
“Yesterday has come and gone. So will tomorrow.” It’s quite logical to base a more positive view of your future on the fact that you have coped in the past. You have found a way through your troubles before and you can do so again. The important thing is not to do anything that makes the situation worse or makes recovery harder.
Drug Poisoning Deaths at an all-time high in the North East
The North East of England has topped the table for deaths related to drug poisoning for the second year in succession. The Office of National Statistics reveals there were 3,346 drug poisoning deaths registered in England and Wales in 2014 the highest since records began in 1993.
Overall there was a sharp jump in fatalities involving cocaine and anti-depressants. Deaths involving heroin or morphine increased from 579 to 952. For the second year running the North East Region has the highest rate of drug misuse deaths at 69.3 per one million of the population.
Addictions UK provides a home-based drug and alcohol treatment service and is based in the North East of England. The service is a Social Enterprise and works with other third sector agencies in the North East of England in particular. Treatment and medical Detox Services are available to clients throughout the United Kingdom and Republic of Ireland.
For further information please telephone 0300 330 3040 or Freephone 0800 1 40 40 44 or discuss your questions with us or contact us on lineif you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.