Thought: ‘More is achieved by a soft smile than a hard word.’

Addictions UK uses Twitter to share inspirational Thoughts every day. This article is based on one of them. Follow us at @addictionsuk.

illustrationStick or carrot? It’s the age-old dilemma. Do you get a better response from people by showing them the consequences of failure or the benefits of success? Should you threaten or reward?

Truth be told most of us need both.

The first step for someone addicted to drugs or alcohol or anything else is to realise how unmanageable life has become and that, without change, things can only get worse.

There’s also a whole separate debate, for another time and place, about the requirement for punishment and deterrence.

But whatever the need for facing both truth and consequences, the fact remains that we all respond to encouragement.

Before someone will take action it is an absolute necessity that they can see that there are benefits. If anyone was ever made to do anything purely from fear then nasty, big questions hang over the motives and morals of all concerned.

There’s a time for warnings and even for threats but, on balance, it’s encouragement and support that gets the results.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

Thought: ‘You ask me what’s wrong with procrastination? I’ll tell you tomorrow.’

Addictions UK uses Twitter to share inspirational Thoughts every day. This article is based on one of them. Follow us at @addictionsuk.

illustrationWe often make jokes about putting things off, amusing little throw-away lines.

But taken seriously, procrastination is actually a form of insidious, creeping denial.

We keep telling ourselves that a problem is really not so important; solving it can wait another day or two … or more.

Meanwhile, instead of coming under control or at best remaining stable, our problems increase and worsen.

It’s probably more true of addiction than of anything else, whether it’s alcohol addiction, drug addiction or addiction to some other substance or process.

“Never do today what you can put off until tomorrow,” we joke. But with each passing moment our problems are getting worse and our opportunities are slipping by.

It may take “rock bottom” to bring us to our senses. But there’s just a chance that we will realise that we are not kidding anyone, not ourselves, not those around us, and it really is time to face the challenges, right now, right here.

If you think you may have a problem with alcohol or drugs or anything else which is taking over your life, please contact us now, especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

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Thought: ‘Recovery, like any growth, is imperceptible but looks dramatic in retrospect.’

Addictions UK shares inspirational Thoughts each day on Twitter. This article is based on one of them.

illustration“My, how you’ve grown!” It’s something we heard often when we were children, from Aunts and Uncles we hadn’t seen in a while. And now we catch ourselves saying it, or at least thinking it, about people or pets or the lawn when we get back from holiday!

Day by day growth goes unnoticed. It’s only when we remember how things were or return after an absence that we realise how great the change has been.

Small changes matter. Dave Brailsford, the coach for the British 2012 Olympic cyclists put success down to “The aggregation of marginal gains”. Little improvements, too small to notice, all add up and the apparently insignificant starts to matter.

When people face challenges like addiction to drugs or alcohol or anything else it’s sometimes very hard to see when things are getting better. That’s especially true when you try to assess yourself. It’s only over time that the little changes start to add up and the big change becomes noticeable.

It’s vital that we are not discouraged by apparent lack of progress, even by setbacks. What matters is the overall trend and the long term development.

Follow us at @addictionsuk. Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

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Thought: ‘When climbing out of depression seems impossible, settle down and let it float away.’

Addictions UK uses Twitter to share inspirational Thoughts every day. This article is based on one of them. Follow us at @addictionsuk.

illustrationIt happens to us all.

You spend ages and ages trying to solve a problem – balance a set of figures, debug a computer program, find the missing car keys. You go on and on persuading yourself that in just another minute or two, you’ll work it out.

Eventually something calls you away – there’s someone at the door or the dog wants out.

Suddenly, a few moments after you step away from the problem there’s that “face palm” moment when you realise where the missing penny is or why the code doesn’t work or in which “safe place” you put the keys.

It’s easy to laugh about things like that. Personal issues are not so funny.

When you are overwhelmed by worry or depression it’s really hard to let go and relax. But, as with all those other things, it’s just when you step away for a moment that things start to fall into place.

Admitting that we are powerless over addiction to alcohol or drugs or anything else and that we need help is a similar story of “letting go” and moving forward at last.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.