‘Reflections glitter and distort. Ask someone behind the mirror to tell you what they see.’

Addictions UK uses Twitter to share inspirational Thoughts every day. This article is based on one of them. Follow us at @addictionsuk.

Several of the Twelve Steps, one way or another, require self-examination.

However good our intentions, it is a task that is almost impossible to complete with honesty, integrity and clarity.

Our picture of ourselves is always distorted.

Sometimes we judge ourselves too harshly, convinced that we should have done better whatever the pressures and obstacles that made success impossible.

Sometimes we are too easy on ourselves, justifying our actions by excusing the inexcusable.

Maybe more importantly, the character traits and failings that obsesses us most seem less relevant to others and less of a priority for change.

So, while it is vital that our life and lifestyle needs to come under close scrutiny, we really must get help from someone who can be more objective.

Our family and friends will help us. But even they are too involved. They too will be tempted either to make light of serious issues or else to focus on less important aspects of our behaviour that happen to have caused problems for them.

We really need the help of an experienced, ideally a trained and professional analyst who will ask the right questions and help us see ourselves clearly.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

(This week’s slogan)

If your behaviour needs to change then stop making excuses and, with help from your friends and mentors, confront and conquer.

And if the demands and pressures from others are unreasonable, stand up to them.

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Thought: ‘I am powerless over your addiction too. I can support you but I cannot change you.’

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The first of the Twelve Steps requires the “We admitted we were powerless over addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable.”

The difficult truth is that we cannot just give up and give in and let someone else take over.

If I am trying to write an article and I get writer’s block, I can ask a friend to take over and complete the work. I need take no more part in it.

But addiction is something within, not something “out there” from which we can detach ourselves. We cannot hand over our life to someone else and have them manage every detail for us. Not, at least, unless we have been persuaded to join some abusive cult.

It may be true that life has become unmanageable but just facing that fact does not of itself solve the problem. The way forward is not to hand over to another human to tell us what to do but to seek help and strength from our friends and families and from any Higher Power we acknowledge to support us as we face and take decisions and, litle by little, one at a time, pick up the pieces.

When I say, “My life has become unmanageable”, I need to add “So, with help and support and encouragement I must start to get it back under control”.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

(This week’s slogan)

It may seem depressing to think back to so many times that life has seemed impossibly difficult. But as you recall them you will realise that you made it through then and you will do now.

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Thought: ‘Everyone longs for forgiveness. Who will you forgive today?’

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As number Eight of the Twelve Steps we “Made a list of all persons we have harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.”

It is essential as part of any process in relationships that we seek reconciliation.

But “it’s not all about me”. Our focus is so often on the wrongs we have done that our shame and guilt risks becoming self-centred and self-indulgent.

The Christian “Lord’s Prayer” speaks of fairness and reciprocity. If the Christian is to expect forgiveness from God then the deal is that he has to be ready to forgive others.

So maybe there should be a Step 8½: “Made a list of all persons who have harmed us, and became willing to forgive them all.”

Never underestimate the power of your own resentment and bitterness to block your road to recovery.

And people with whom you are reconciled and “friends again” become another source of support and encouragement, even if that comes only from the comfort of removing one more focus of stress.

Forgiving others makes you feel better (and makes you a better person) but it’s not all about you – it’s about offering the reconciliation that brings them comfort, support and closure.

Please contact us now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

Thought: ‘There is no stasis. What is not growing is in decay.’

Addictions UK uses Twitter to share inspirational Thoughts every day. This article is based on one of them. Follow us at @addictionsuk.

Even in the middle of winter, a garden is changing and growing. You can’t stop it. On the bare twigs there are buds waiting to bust. And, as any gardener knows, the wildlife, cute or pesky, never ceases to search for a meal.

Fast or slow, depending on the season, everything is decaying or growing, be it a beautiful ornamental or an invasive weed.

Life is like a garden. It never stands still.

There is something deep within the human psyche that longs for stasis and permanence. If only everything, anything would stay still, we could catch it and control it.

It’s a dangerous trap. If we are tempted to wait for life to become manageable then we are just watching a vanishing mirage. It’s not going to happen.

Life will always change – circumstances, the people around us, the economy, the environment. We will never get it under control.

In a way, this scary truth brings an unexpected comfort. The unruliness that surronds each of us is not unusual or deviant, it’s the norm, a Fact of Life.

The trick with a garden is to manage, not to control. Centuries ago people tried to make formal gardens, but it was a constant battle by an army of labourers to keep out encroaching reality and, on close inspection, it was only ever an illusion.

Another of Addictions UK’s Thoughts on Twitter reminds us that “Accepting that you cannot control your addiction does need not mean that your whole life is chaos.”

We change our lives little by little, and start by preserving the good that is there already. Calling in a garden makeover team to change everything in three days only happens on the Telly. In real life, our own lives, a little pruning here, a little feeding there, and the mess starts to look more organised and the flowers among the weeds are easier to see and to encourage.

Just as with a garden, we need to accept that in life change is unavoidable, that growth can be guided and, if we can accept some help with the management, it can become beautiful.

Please contact Addictions UK now if you need help with recovery from any addiction and especially if you are seeking home-based treatment.

MP writes to Prime Minister Cameron

Steve Taylor – Ex National Treatment Agency Official – dismissed activists calling for more help for people with addictions as a “few noisy activists”.

Jim Dobbin MP in a letter to the Prime Minister expressed serious concerns regarding the lack of appropriate action by the Department of Health and the Minister for Public Health on this very issue; involuntary tranquilliser addiction.

The Member of Parliament said “There are only about six small withdrawal charities providing treatment for involuntary tranquilliser addiction struggling for funding due to the health reforms. Services are not patchy, as the Minister claims in her letter, but nearly non-existent. We know that the Minister’s statement that ‘treatment is available across the country’ is incorrect.”

He added: “Since the health reforms and localism have been introduced the situation is even worse. There is negligible local expertise and understanding about the scale of involuntary tranquilliser addiction and how to treat it, exacerbated further by the PHE commissioning guide, which is not fit for purpose for reasons already explained to the Minister and PHE”.

Addictions UK applauds this attempt to bring recovery to a significant and growing group of people suffering from the effects of over prescribed prescription drugs.

Simon Stephens, Director of Casework, said “Many of my colleagues support our deep concerns that addiction is not being taken seriously by some Authorities at the moment. I have seen a letter from a Public Authority saying that there was no evidence base showing that abstinence programmes are effective. I cannot further disagree with their point of view”. Simon added “I fear that we are returning to the old policies of harm minimisation in many parts of the country – the Government must continue the push to more Recovery-based solutions”

Addictions UK works with people with pathological dependence to alcohol and drugs – including addiction to prescription drugs and other “Process Addictions”. For further information on our addiction services contact us on 0300 330 30 40 or though our website . Addictions UK works throughout the United Kingdom and is able to offer medial home detox services

(This week’s slogan)

We tend to complicate things. Problems overwhelm us. We make too many plans.

Keep it simple. For today, pick just one thing in your life that needs to change and focus on one simple step to make progress.

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or telephone 0300 330 30 40.

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